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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't explain why you want to retire early, OP.

My husband didn't even have a conversation with me about this. He just stopped looking for work after being let go. So he's retired. Or unemployed. I don't think he'll ever work again. he loves to garden, so that keeps him busy some months of the year, and apart from that, he sits at his computer, reading the news and watching nature docs or DYI repair videos. Does he clean the house, do laundry, wash dishes, take care of the pets, manage the children's lives, with their activities, medical appointments and college admissions? No. But he cooks a little.

I am resentful of this situation, and your spouse will be too.
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DP. I'm the DH in this situation. Spent the last 3+ years "retired" after losing my job (at 55). Every job offer I got was not something that was consistent with my previous level of work/experience. I was good at what I did and would love to work but not at a job that I'd resent so I stopped looking. Most men are like that. Work is part of our identity. Unless, we'll starve to death, we will not compromise our pride just to work. I'd rather cut down on lifestyle than go spend 8-10 hours reporting to a snot-nosed child whose job I'm more than capable of doing.

On the flip side, I take care of most things in the house, just got the last kid off to college and have enough money ($8M+, $5M of which came from my efforts/investments) to retire on. DW loves her job and wants to keep working, which is fine by me. She can quit whenever she wants but I'm not pushing it. Enjoying the peace and quiet for now..[/quote]

PP you replied to. I get that past a certain age and level of experience, it's hard to find a suitable position. If my husband took on half of the household and kid-related duties, I'd be fine with the loss of income. But it's not the case, sadly. He's just selfish.
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