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OP,

Don't you realize that your mother is simply growing old and that her interests are dwindling, and naturally centering on herself? It's really obvious. Most, but not all, elderly people become that way.

We have observed the same symptoms with both of our very affectionate mothers, DH and I. One additional similarity is that our families are overseas, and that distance (not being able to drop by every day) greatly decreases the emotional and psychological bond. She can't see your kids in the flesh and hug then - obviously at some point she won't be able to maintain interest in their every life happening, or in yours.

This may translate to dementia (there are several forms of it) down the road, so watch out. You should start thinking about what to do for her when she becomes less functional, bringing her closer to you, close to another family member, assisted living, etc.

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This is what I see. Friends and cousins whose parents eventually needed memory care went through this exact phase in the decade before the dementia became obvious.

OP, chalk it up to her aging. It's not really about you.[/quote]

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