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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, OP, but there's no culture where you have to have a $40K wedding. You picked a woman who wants to spend a lot of money on a wedding, but there are a lot of couples of all different cultures who spend way-way less. In fact I don't think anyone but Americans would even think of a $40K wedding. [/quote]

This 40k includes our rings, honeymoon, and dress/suit. So it’s really like a 30k wedding. This is cheaper than my parents wedding if you plug into an inflation calculator which didn’t seem fancy at all.

This is very much in line with a typical American wedding from everything I’ve researched. I think you’re delusional about what’s normal, maybe you got married in the 90’s. Or you are just lucky to be super frugal and married to someone else who is also frugal who doesn’t care about weddings. [b]Almost all women in their 20’s are going to have an issue with doing a courthouse or backyard wedding, that is just reality[/b]. [/quote]
This isn't even close to true. Are you a man trying to mansplain women's wants or are you an insecure bride who is desperate to justify this wedding? Either way it's a bad look, but it might help us give better answers. [/quote]

What is true? How many backyard or courthouse weddings have you been to?[/quote]
You said "almost all women in their 20's will have a problem" with these, why do you presume to speak for "almost all women in their 20's"? Where are you getting your information? How many weddings have you been to? It doesnt sound like many at all. [/quote]

I didn’t say that at all there’s more than one poster here.  But insisting that it’s not even close to true that  many people want a courthouse wedding. I call BS on that. Turns out, a few years ago 3-4% of weddings were at a courthouse. Seems actually pretty close to true that that’s not what most brides or grooms want. Why are you making up your own facts?

https://www.reuters.com/article/markets/wealth/in-defense-of-the-courthouse-wedding-idUSKBN0O61O9/#:~:text=Courthouse%20and%20city%20hall%20ceremonies,industry%20resource%20The%20Wedding%20Report.[/quote]
I'm not sure a 10 year old article is the slam dunk you think it is, but it also doesn't include backyard weddings, which OP also sh*t on. I take issue with anyone (especially a man) telling other women what "almost all women" want.

Saying - quoted directly from OP - "Almost all women in their 20’s are going to have an issue with doing a courthouse or backyard wedding, that is just reality" is making up facts. Not "almost all women" will have an issue with this. Not "almost all women" want to blow a huge chunk of their own money on a one day party. In fact there is a recent thread on dcum about simple weddings and finding lifelong happiness. The average cost of weddings is HIGH, but it's also directly affected by the few people who have very very expensive weddings ($500k+).

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