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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate the fact that kids get no playing time, and that parents and coaches bully us into thinking that they have to just sit there and take it with no complaints. I had my daughter quit a club sport that we had paid for for this reason. The coach was not kind to her and spread a nasty lie about why she quit. I say this because I think this kind of sports culture is toxic, and it teaches kids to just take abuse from coaches, bosses and other authority figures. It’s not what I want my kid to take away. I’d rather they prioritize academics, work, leadership, etc. let your kid quit.[/quote]

This this this. My kid was a starter and I still thought it was too much of a time suck and the coaches treated everyone other than the stars like crap. You also weren’t allowed to read a book even if you were injured and had to sit and watch the kids practice. If my kid wasn’t getting any play time, I’d have him fake an injury and quit. [/quote]

I agree. The poster who say sticking it out is "the right ting to do" because of "commitment" lack some perspective here. Commitment to a team is a two-way street, first of all. The kid clearly is neither wanted nor needed on the team. He is sacrificing his sleep, his academics, and therefore his opportunity to put his best for forward, just to sit on a bench and watch other kids play. The coach is all but telling him he's not really a part of the team. That's a one-way commitment. This is different from the kid whose team is counting on him to win a championship. But even that kid should have the option to pull out if the sport is causing harm in his life. A lot of the sports "commitments" around here are causing some kids (and families) active harm.

So what is the 'right thing' here? Self-harm for the sake of saying you stayed where you weren't wanted or needed? I happen to think that reading the room, being humble enough to admit you aren't right for the team, and focusing on your strengths is the "right thing" here. Sometimes, knowing when to throw in the towel and focus your energies on more productive endeavors IS the right thing. Knowing when to stop is as important as knowing when to push through. Here, pushing through seems to be aiming at a futile goal.[/quote]

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