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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Generally, men love themselves first and their wife/kids second. Women love their kids first and themselves second.[/b]

Of the divorced parents I’ve known, men tend to prioritize their own happiness and will give up custody or move out of state for “work”. They’ve explained to me that they need to put on their own oxygen mask first to be a good dad, or that they don’t feel guilty because they are providing for their kids.

I remember going on a date with a man who poured so much of his money into an entrepreneurial venture that he lived in a trailer with other men in an area so had a judge ruled his kids couldn’t visit him there, so he only saw them once a month. But this was okay with him, because he planned on making a ton of money so he could provide for his kids later on.

Which he did, but he also remarried and started a new family. My guess is that his kids would have preferred he work a regular job and stayed with their mom rather than try to buy their love later on.

Of course this isn’t always the case. I lost my mom very young and we were raised by my dad. He did a fantastic job and put us first - he quit his demanding career and got a lower paying one so he could be finished by 3pm every day, did not date at all until we were well into our 20s, as kids he always spent quality time with us every day.

But among other kids I knew who lost their mom, it was far more common for dad to start dating right away. I knew kids who went through severe depression, self-mutilation, etc because their dad immediately started bringing other women home. Absolutely terrible.

I know those dads would say they loved their kids, and would be concerned enough to get them into therapy, but wouldn’t go as far as putting their kids’ needs above their own. [/quote]

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