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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are not being taken advantage of, and this wouldn’t be a scenario where anyone would need to pay you. BUT, all the people who are minimizing the burden places on the OP and saying she should take this on as a charity not of her own choosing are being a little unfair. It’s an extra step each and every time something comes up. It’s raining and she decides to drive her kids home? Not only does she need to call the school but she also needs to call or text neighbor and await response as to whether kid will walk, ride with her, or take bus. Kid forgets his key? OP needs to be the adult to help. Kid left his jacket at school? Everyone needs to go back. Kid wants to go to playground but OP’s kids don’t? Then what? OP’s kids are starving after school. Now OP is packing snacks for 3 kids 5 days a week instead of 2. Every time OP has a schedule change she now needs to notify and coordinate with this random other neighbor rather than just having the freedom to worry about her own schedule. It’s stifling. None of it is a big deal and a lot of working moms probably just assume the kids just walk straight home every day but in reality there’s usually something like haircuts, dentist appts, activities, errands, etc fairly often. I think it’s fine for the other mom to say, if you guys happen to be walking out together I’d love if you’d keep an eye as he crosses the street. But to effectively expect that OP is responsible for this child all school year is not an insignificant ask. [/quote]

This reads like one of those “why I need to be a SAHM” ads. Tell your husband who pays you.

I’m all for SAHM, but working mom is not asking for anything other than maybe if OP can walk her kid home *when she is walking her own kids home*. It’s happened twice. OPs kids asked to go to the park, and *OP invited* the other kid. Maybe working mom doesn’t even want that. She just wants to make sure her kid, who is new to the area and new to the school, has some supervision while he negotiates the busy road he has to cross.

I don’t see where OP is being forced or actually, even asked to watch this kid beyond the walk home. 45 min home isn’t some horrible burden, even for a 4th grader. Yes, it’s lovely if she can take him to the park, but all the dramatic posts about “all.the.things” that must happen so OP can’t possibly are just honestly ignorant. Because working mom is probably also doing and dealing a lot of these things with her kid.

Although I guess kids of working moms never let their kids eat, go to the dentist, or any of it. Honestly, it’s a wonder they survive.

Oh yeah, spoiler alert. I WAH. The moms I have to cover the most are SAH, because they never assume they need help outside until the last minute

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