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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with PPs who support girls to stand up for themselves and not allow any unwanted touching … ever!

But, I also have a problem with supporting physical altercations if there is an option to move away and report to a grown up. They are all kids and all still learning about what is appropriate. If “Jimmy” is repeatedly doing this to girls, yes, it requires adequate consequences (doled out by grown ups), just like with any other bullying or assault type of behavior.

To see where I am heading with this, consider the following scenario (actual events slightly modified from what really happened): just for fun, “Susie”, a very tall and physically strong girl grabs “Sam” tiny and not very athletic boy and threatens to punch him, while he repeatedly asks her to stop and let him go. To protect himself and with all his might, “Sam” kicks “Susie” in what you might consider a private spot. Ok or not ok now? Who do you think school went after? What if the genders were reversed? Who would be in trouble and who would you support?

I hope your answer to my first question is “not ok for “Sam” to kick “Susie” with all his might in her private parts”. I have never heard a mom of any boy suggest that if they are cornered by a girl to go and kick her in her private parts. I hope you see the insanity of even thinking about saying something like that. If you wouldn’t tell a boy to do something like that, why would you say it to a girl?

They are 8 or 9 year old kids! Inappropriate behavior should not be excused regardless of gender, but at age 8 or 9 you can hardly say that boys are already acting like some sort of predators. They know (or should know) what is an inappropriate touching and not do it. And if they still go ahead and behave inappropriately, there are plenty of consequences that school has at their disposal to ensure that “Jimmy” never again tries to inappropriately touch another girl. Treating 9 year old boys as some sort of sexually disturbed abusers is just nuts. [/quote]

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