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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][twitter][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, I think the advice to punch or kick another 9 yr old is misplaced anger. She should move away from him immediately and tell an adult, not get into a physical altercation.  She isn’t fighting for her life and he is a child too[/quote]

She is being molested by a 9 year old boy who is old enough to know this is a private area.  She is fully justified to let him know with her fist or her knee or both that she is not going to be his target.[/quote]

I would hardly call that “molesting” that requires a physical attack in retaliation.

He is poking her in the chest.  She can remove herself and tell a teacher.  That accomplishes the goal of him stopping and him getting consequences. Mom can follow up with administration.  Turning this into a physical fight isn’t the answer. [/quote]

Your special snowflake boy can keep his  hands to himself or bear the consequences of someone else not keeping their hands to themselves.

If it wouldn’t be ok for an adult to do it to another adult, it’s not ok for a kid to do it to another kid. That’s what I tell my DD and that’s the explanation I used  that finally got school to start holding boys accountable for their physical harassment of girls.

What would all these apologist boy moms do if a man started poking them in line at Starbucks?! I’m guessing they wouldn’t quietly step out of line and tell a manager. [/quote]

They are kids.  You can’t compare to adults doing this. “Holding him accountable” doesn’t mean punching, kicking him, etc. Are you animals? [/quote]

Wow, do you really think that kids should not have the same bodily autonomy as adults AND that at the same time they should handle physical harassment with mature words and understanding?

The two PPs have illustrated exactly the point that so many parents are trying to get across. These boy parents expect girls to not only peacefully tolerate unwanted touching of their bodies while trying to receive their compulsory education, but they also want them to react to that unwanted touching in a way that in no way disturbs the comfort of the boy who initiates these incidents. Ok then…[/quote]

She leaves the line and gets an adult.  That is the correct response. Her parents take it up with admin and the kid gets punished accordingly. That is the correct response. Not fighting like an animal in line. What is wrong with you? It’s not “self defense” [/quote]

Multiple people have said their girls were discouraged from or actively punished for leaving lines to speak up or interrupting class to speak up. Bully boys know this and take advantage of it. PPs on here are suggesting physical retorts in situations where this behavior of boys has been repeatedly ignored by teachers and admin. My own DD was punished multiple times by teachers for speaking up or leaving lines or hallways areas, and worse, was on the receiving end of social consequences from her classmates for speaking up (cornered by other boys so she couldn’t escape when she tried to leave a line, chased and called a tattle by the perpetrator’s friends, ignored by other girls for fear that the boys would turn on them, too). If she’d just hit the boy back, I’m sure it would have been more effective than “just getting out of line”. [/quote]

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