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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ran into another mom I hadn't spoken to in a few years. She said she needs to start reconnecting with people as they approach an empty nest. It sounds good but it really is so different by HS. Social ties of elementary school usually fall off completely and parents are busy working.[/quote]

It is only this way if you allow it to be. I hear a lot of the lack of community as people age. But to have the community you have to cultivate it and not just work and sit at home. [/quote]

You are only accounting for one side. I agree that initiating is better than doing nothing, but many people aren't looking for friendships to cultivate when they're busy with aging parents, career pushes, college kids who still periodically appear and need things. So even if you reach out, be prepared that finding likeminded adults is hard.[/quote]

I’m sorry for you if your approach to life is to avoid anything that may not succeed or may end in disappointment. Yes, it is hard to start and nurture friendships while taking care of your own kids, home, career, etc. - but many people find a way to make room in their lives for new people and to show up for friends. Those are the people who won’t be lonely when they are an 80yr old widow whose kids live across the country.

Of all the posts on DCUM complaining about meddlesome, boundary less grandparents and in-laws, I am just now realizing that my parents and in-laws are not like that because they have friends and full, interesting lives of their own so they are too busy to meddle in mine. And gasp! Most of my mom’s and my MIL’s friends that have been there for them for 30-50 years are people they met through child-centric activities. [/quote]

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