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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom and sister are very emotional people.  They cry easily and have big feelings.  I'm the opposite and can find them stressful (and I'm sure they have some negative thoughts towards me).  I would never tell them they can't grieve, but I'd be thinking it.  Having a baby and trying to enjoy my mom meeting the baby and having my family together and them crying constantly would put me on edge.   It was probably one of the hardest parts of the grieving process for me.  Managing them was exhausting until I realized it wasn't my responsibility to get them to stop crying or calm them.  I think I always felt like they expected me to make them feel better, and once I realized that wasn't the case, it got easier.   I just excused myself when it got to be too much for me.

If you are a crier or emotional person, try to tamp it down at her house.  Or have her go take a nap or do something for herself and then you and your mom can have your cry and reminisce about your dad and talk about how much he would have loved to be there with you guys.  [/quote]

So I hope you realize it was a you problem.  It wasn't their grief, it was your reaction to it.  I'm glad you came to realize you didn't have to take on everyone else's grief or try to solve it.[/quote]

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