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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s appropriate. 3 kids through high school, one remaining. Outside Parent Teacher conferences, I never communicated with any teacher. My kids did not have any accommodations, so could see communication of that was the case.[/quote]

I’d like some lower school and intermediate /middle school student parent perspectives. They have the same policy there- parents out of the picture.

My kid got dragged into a Restorative Justice session when witnessing bullying. Parents were never told, or at least we weren’t.

A couple months later when my kid was the target of the same bully and not wanting to go to school, she disclosed this mtg that happened a couple months ago.

Apparently she only said some benign thing at the mtg, in front of the bully snd whole group since that’s how the guidance counselor rolls, about how everyone should be nice. And then the retaliation game began.

First I asked teacher wtf was going on. Silence; everyone is nice here. Then we had to go to guidance counselor, got total shock from her. Lastly I ran into some parents who all had issues with the same bully bullying their kid. Took months to figure that out with zero help, only zero communication, from the lower school.

And they had the gall to say, when we requested distance with next years homeroom, you should have told us right away! [/quote]

As an elementary teacher this anecdote has been weighing on me. We have to teach children that there is efficacy to their self advocacy or they will stop trying to advocate for themselves. Telling a parent about their distress caused by a peer or teacher at school **is** age appropriate self advocacy and should be followed through on so they can see the connection between speaking up and getting results.

Quashing their voice because they weren't brave enough to tell the "correct" adult is detrimental to their future efforts and sets them up for future harm and possible abuse. They may internalize events as being their fault rather than a problem to be solved with support. Responding now can set them up for more success in the future. [/quote]

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