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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. The range of comments here stymies me even further. I have people telling me to go to more therapy and less therapy. I have people telling me to make friends at church, make friends among other Asian Americans, and make friends in the local house music scene. I have people telling me that I seem self aware and articulate, and people telling me that I am probably a difficult person to be friends with.

One thing is clear though — I should probably move out of my parents’ house and get any sort of job.

Honestly I regret posting this. All the different advice makes me feel more confused. [/quote]

Consider what people are telling you here as a menu of options from which you get to choose.

Maybe you feel confused because you have been trained/wired to do what other people tell you.

I think the general theme here has been that everyone is trying to help you find "potential" pathways to dig yourself out of the hole you are experiencing.  Don't use these as a script or a to do list.  It's many different people sharing ideas - you should expect them to be all over the map.  But then again - you might want to consider the re-occurring themes as shared opinions.

Use the array of ideas to reflect a bit and maybe try out something. If nothing resonates - then pick one and try it out - and try another if that one doesn't seem interesting (Just be sure to ignore the "get a man" and the "just get used to the idea that people don't have friends" or "some people never find their people" nonsense....I can assure you , those aren't helpful!)

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