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[quote=Anonymous]Years later- I can empathize OP.  Don’t listen to people who say you’re entitled or spoiled or that you should just get on with it.

Your dad started a new family and abandoned you in emotional ways that are easy to compare with your step siblings.   They got more, which would not have happened if it was 3 bio siblings.

College, inheritance, first cars- these are luxuries and of course you’re lucky to have received them in some form. The point is that your dad and stepmother made careful decisions about gifts for their children, and for some reason you only got the discount version of what your step sibs received.

That’s the hurtful part- that he chose to give them more.

Divorced parents can be very selfish and step parents can be very competitive, jealous of the bio children, embarrassed about the way they came together as a couple, anything is possible.

Your stepmother may see her husband’s ex every time she looks at you, and she’s taking it out on you in weird ways.

It won’t really get better, speaking from experience.  But you can go to therapy and learn that parents aren’t always reliable or rational, and this will make you a better human and parent in the future someday.

Don’t for a second feel spoiled or whiny.  In some families these gifts are a given, and usually if a family can afford to give those gifts, they are given equally.

I hope your dad regrets it and realizes how lame that was.

My stepfather tried apologizing to me twenty five years after the fact for his bullying, teasing, intimidating treatment of me as a little kid.  He was very embarrassed his behavior years later, and had to live with it.

My kids remember him as “menacing” and all these selfish divorced parents in my world ended up missing out because of their own dramas.

I hope you’re doing well! It’s hard to get over the emotional and/or financial abandonment once you’re an adult and wonder “how could they do this to their own kids?”  [/quote]

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