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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I try really hard to give my DH partial credit.

He’s never ever going to turn into the partner I thought he was going to be, and I’ve tried really hard to let it go. [/quote]

This is what I do too. It’s impossible to compel another adult to do things, and when I point out the work that didn’t get done, somehow I’m the shrew. I got tired of being considered “the problem”.[/quote]

this is me too. when I bite my tongue because I see items from the dishwasher "still drying" I remind myself of the things he does around the house that I hate doing, or other ways he takes care of me. I'm not perfect either and I feel it's better in the long run to let some things slide[/quote]

Why is “still drying” in quotes?  Do you insist that dishes must be put away immediately?  If yes, that’s definitely a “you” problem, and I’d tell you to do it yourself if it matters to you that much.[/quote]

LOL. My DH believes deep in his heart that dishes need 3-5 days to air dry and clothing 2-3 weeks. He would die, eat off the floor, or go naked before he cleared an entire dishrack or drying rack. I brought this up last week and pointed to the dishtowel next to the dishrack when he complained that he had to stop doing dishes because the rack was full. I said "[b]You know, you can dry the dishes with this towel. It's what it's for." He said "but then I have to put everything away and it all goes in different places."[/b][/quote]
This is tragic and hysterical.  Maybe a moment when you could gently share that’s just how it has to work in this cruel world of ours?
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It is a cruel world, right?!

It's a lot to expect him memorize the locations of 10-20 items he's used daily over the course of 12 years. First he had to go to college, then he had to study for the GREs and the GMAT, then he had to watch me be pregnant and give birth, and now I'm asking him to walk 300 steps per day and remember where the colander goes?! Total pile-on. [/quote]

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