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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So happy to see I’m not alone in NOT wanting to go with my husband. He’s difficult, plans nothing, needs 2hr nap everyday day if we’re hiking so we miss out on sunset bike rides, beach strolls etc. I have to plan every detail and when I try to discuss with him he can barely pay attention and can’t focus, doesn’t act excited…He asked why we have to go Wed to Wed not Sunday to Sunday well I said “I texted you and explained flight and hotel prices” His narcissistic personality took that as me patronizing him!! I’d rather go with anyone other than him! Sure it’s a red flag and yes I should have gotten out years ago.[/quote]

Same here.

I hate traveling with him now. He can’t hold a conversation on anything but his work. He never helps pack or care for their before, during or after. He can’t plan jack. And it’s like he can’t see danger and has zero common sense, eg, but let’s see if the ATV can go straight up this cliff by the ocean; let’s really see if me and the 5 yo can or cannot snorkel in the rip tide.

Dumb and dumber [/quote]

I am guy and see these red flags within two minutes of talking to husband of one of DWs friends.   They were like this before you married them why are you surprised.  This behavior or mentality didn’t just show up one day.

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NP. Probably because in their young and free days dating everything was fun fun fun!  1 BR apartment - so easy!  Beach trips or wedding trips to friends - already planned practically!

No kids to raise or care for or plan stuff for. No SFH house to manage, repair, tidy up, clean. No bills and budget to manage - mortgage, bills, family travel, ECs, health, 2 sets of elderly parents. No serious discussions to have - kids learning issues, what school to attend, where to buy a house, family trips. No dependency or reliability needed.

BIG DIFFERENCE.

Dumb & Dumber dude wasn't tested until marriage with kids. Now that he has been, guess what, he FAILED. over and over. And worse, apparently took no steps or efforts to step up, grow up, be reliable, and adapt to Adult Life with Kids. 
And that's besides how lame he sounds - can't talk, no goals, idiot side of him.

Unf divorcing the Dumb & Dumber type with kids isn't a great solution for anyone either.

And vacations with someone like that are a joke. Just make sure to always travel with another family or two. Hopefully Dumb & Dumber can mask on/off during the week so you don't lose your family friends too. [/quote]

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