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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, you should do it. And don’t take this the wrong way, but you should also lower your expectations for what you need to do wrt your DS. It’s OK not to maximize every single therapy and possibility. You sound like an amazing mom who will continue to be amazing but it is simply not rational to forgo this opportunity because you’re killing yourself to be super SN mom. My kid has more mild needs and my career isn’t the greatest - but tbh I’m kind of lazy anyway and wasn’t meant to have a high flying career anyway. [/quote]

Op here. Thank you! You’re probably right. I’ve gotten more intense around DS as we’ve been leading up to kindergarten which feels like a big inflection point.

My only fear is I do feel a bit of imposter syndrome….like I can’t believe I landed this job? I’m not the highest energy person. I just have a super niche skill set. But I quit my job 6 months ago because I couldn’t handle working my normal job (not super cool Scandinavian job) and my DS (and other kids). It’s scary to think about going back to work, moving overseas, etc. But I have truly been preparing for this for 20 years….like ever since college. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t trying to make this happen.[/quote]

Honestly, I see you lasting 6 months at the most. If you can't handle US + normal job there is no way you are surviving 3 years overseas. [/quote]

OMG, stop. The US is the absolute shittiest place to raise a kid. There is no support for anything. I would 100% wish I could have raised my kids anywhere in Europe or the Nordics rather than the US.  It would have been 10x easier. OP, you have to do this for yourself and your family. Your kids need to see you thrive. Your DH needs to grow by supporting you. You can better support your SN and other kids long term when you have a thriving career (and salary). Your SN child will potentially need lifelong financial support and the best way to ensure that is to take the high paying jobs you are offered.

K in Scandinavian country may actually be a better fit for an SN child - there is more emphasis on development through play and social skills rather than the developmentally inappropriate emphasis on academic skills in K and early ES in the US. 
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