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[quote=Anonymous]OP this is hard.  First, you need to be super clear and ok with this change yourself, which is in itself hard. If you have the slightest doubt before you converse, your conversation will be hard.

You also should figure out and feel good about what you DO want with your parents.  You might have the energy for a short trip them as some PPs suggested, but that may not be possible. You might want to do more family gatherings.  Figure out your own boundaries and talk through with your husband. Maybe you would like to do a day trip, etc..

These will keep  you from getting convinced to do something you don't want.

One thing to think about is the extent to which your parents will miss the time with you (in which case more local activities would be a good replacement) or if they miss going places and see your family as making that happen (in which case helping them look into cruises for seniors or other activities they could do well would be kind).  It is probably a little of both but if it is the latter you cannot forever go on vacations to help them do so.  That isn't reasonable to you, your DH or your kids. and It's ok.  But you can help them by suggesting vacation ideas or finding them a good travel agent.

Once you have an understanding, I like the PP's suggestion of being direct and just saying that you will be traveling this time. You can talk about their disappointment with them but you don't have to apologize for the change.  But it is kind to try to help them move forward and understand their disappointment and its source(s).  Good luck to you.

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