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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Around us boomer grandparents are zero help with their grandchildren, they are too busy "living the life", lol.[/quote]

All around us, boomer grandparents are retiring and can't wait for their first grandchildren so they can baby sit and be there financially for their millennial children. Two friends just bought 2nd homes so they can visit often without imposing. [/quote]

Not my boomer parents.  I had parents who literally said "we raised our children. You raise yours. We don't want to be childcare for you." My parents haven't given us a dime and literally "watched" my kid once and it went badly.  They didn't watch her at all and she fell down the stairs at 2 years old.  That was 16 years and 3 additional kids ago.  They've never watched my kids again because they cannot be trusted. [/quote]

I'm sad for you, pp. [/quote]

I'm sad for me too.  I've mourned the parents I never had and wished I did. [b]And I've moved on.[/b]  Trying to do better for my kids.  Just know not everyone js the same.  So if my parents need money or help I will give them the help and support they gave me when I really needed it.  None.[/quote]

DP. But no, you haven't moved on. You are here being a victim and martyr. [/quote]

Nope.  I have moved on.  I'm just voicing the opposing view of those who don't want to help with geriatric parents for very valid reasons.  Many boomer (and other generations) parents were not that great and then expect help in old age.  Those parents shouldn't expect help and it's valid if their kids don't want to help.  That's the point and I've provided some examples for context.[/quote]

I’m pp and just reading thread. You don’t want to help your parents (geriatric is so offensive) because they didn’t give you $$ or watch your kids? I guess I don’t live in a tit for tat world. [/quote]

NP, but that’s exactly why I won’t be helping my parents. They basically told me they were done helping me when I graduated from HS. I’ve been independent, financially and otherwise, since age 18. They’ll never see a dime of my money, even if they’re destitute. [/quote]

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