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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Caring for an elderly parent or parents while trying to juggle the needs/schedules of children (of any age) is incredibly stressful. Add in full or even part time work and it’s worse. I feel like an awful human because I just want elderly in-laws to die. It’s killing my DH and our marriage and relationship with children. My in-laws quality of life is so low that it’s mind boggling that their care is turning our lives inside out and upside down. I realize that sounds incredibly cold but they enjoy nothing, can do nothing, complain incessantly, and require so much assistance on a day to day basis. I/my DH are constantly taking time off from work to help them but nothing ever seems to improve, it’s just a band aid until the next disaster (which could be in a few hours or next week). Kids are tweens and teens who are capable of staying home alone, but they do need parenting and we aren’t doing a lot of that right now because we are caring for DH’s parents. Every time we leave for “vacation” they have a episode that requires us to return and manage. Siblings are no help. We are stuck in an it what it is hell. [/quote]

I so understand you and you are not cruel. It IS hell. Absolute HELL. If your in-laws are broke, the best you can do is get them on Medicaid and hope they qualify for assisted living of some kind. Your kids come before them.[/quote]

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