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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my wife gets angry with me she insists she's going to sleep on the couch. I usually go down at some point and talk her into sleeping in our bed.

I don't know if she imagines it's punishing me somehow to sleep on the couch, but from my perspective it's just giving her a bad's night sleep because of something, allegedly, I have done.

I'm happy to agree to a non-speaking truce and stick to my own side of the bed so that she can give me the silent treatment AND also get a good night's sleep.

The last couple of times I've made the offer but haven't wholeheartedly lobbied her to follow through. I have no idea what she thinks is being accomplished by sleeping on the couch, but I guess if she feels its making some point she can do it...[/quote]

This is so odd.  Of course the person who did something wrong is  happy to have a truce and never talk about it again.

Instead of living in some kind of stalemate, just own up to whatever you did to hurt your partner, apologize, and try not to do it again.  Not every argument has to be this long drawn out thing that takes days to resolve.  [/quote]

This.

Unclear who that PPP thinks he’s fooling. Maybe only himself.[/quote]

I honestly don't understand the point of her sleeping on the coach. It literally punishes only herself.

If we have an argument, I'd prefer to make up and talk it out. She's the kind who likes to fume over it for awhile. That's fine. I'm not asking her to do what I want, I'm saying she can stay angry and give me the silent treatment and not talk to me or listen to what I have to say—I'll keep my distance and not talk to her or whatever and she can sleep comfortably in her own bed. I've even offered to sleep on the couch, but I think she interprets that as trying to make myself the victim.

I don't think a mild olive branch and an agreement to resume the discussion when she feels comfortable is the travesty you seem to be trying to act like it is.[/quote]

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