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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my wife gets angry with me she insists she's going to sleep on the couch. I usually go down at some point and talk her into sleeping in our bed.

I don't know if she imagines it's punishing me somehow to sleep on the couch, but from my perspective it's just giving her a bad's night sleep because of something, allegedly, I have done.

I'm happy to agree to a non-speaking truce and stick to my own side of the bed so that she can give me the silent treatment AND also get a good night's sleep.

The last couple of times I've made the offer but haven't wholeheartedly lobbied her to follow through. I have no idea what she thinks is being accomplished by sleeping on the couch, but I guess if she feels its making some point she can do it...[/quote]

This is so odd.  Of course the person who did something wrong is  happy to have a truce and never talk about it again.

Instead of living in some kind of stalemate, just own up to whatever you did to hurt your partner, apologize, and try not to do it again.  Not every argument has to be this long drawn out thing that takes days to resolve.  [/quote]

What's odd? Who says I didn't apologize?

You've added that detail yourself.

My point is that if she's not going to talk to me and ignore me and make it clear that she's mad at me, SHE shouldn't get a lousy night sleep over it. She can give me the stony silent treatment from the firm comfort of our nice king size mattress. Sleeping on the couch isn't offending or hurting me, it's just giving her a crick in the neck.[/quote]

Well, if you are saying that you did something “allegedly,” then you aren’t apologizing very well, and she has no reason to believe that you won’t continue hurting her in this way.

And this post still seems so defensive and angry.  You are angry with her, hoping that she gets a crick in the neck, because, what, she dared to be mad at you when you hurt her?

It sounds like there is no way that she can possibly get you to change your behavior.  She can’t live this way where she is consistently hurt by you, for long.  Eventually, she will either divorce you, or she will make her marriage a very small part of her life and effectively live as roommates.

You, your wife, and your kids are losing out on having a loving home and marriage because you can’t say that you are sorry for being late for dinner or whatever she’s upset about.

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No, I said I DON'T want her to have a crick in her neck. 
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Ok. 
You want her to just kind of let it go when you let her down, not be mad, and basically just treat you like one of the children?  
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Someone is projecting a tad.[/quote]

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