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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]oldest in last year of college, youngest in military.  We have decided to down size, be mortgage free, and move to another area about an hour away from current location.  My kids are very upset bc this is house they grew up in but honestly I feel its the best we can do for ourselves.  House we currently have is huge, huge yard, huge pool, huge maintenance, medium payment.  No one has used the pool now that my youngest is gone.  I can't see them moving back home.  I just hate the guilt.
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We live in the Suburbs in an 80s quiet community. Some original owners still live there and we barely see family coming around to visit. For most, their kids live far or in other states. Some have grandchildren that come visit during the summer but for the most part of the year they are alone. We have teens and a few other new families have younger kids so our elderly neighbors enjoy watching and chatting with us. I do, however, wonder why they still live there. The houses are all 4-5 bedrooms with good size yards and some pools. I can't help to think it must feel very lonely...

We have teens and hope to down size and be mortgage (and college loans) free to travel onces our teens are out of the home.  We  have our first kid heading to College now and our kids know that's our plan. [/quote]

I think there is a middle ground between selling when your kid is 20 and still trying to get their first real job or grad school lined up and doesn’t have a family of their own to spend holidays with vs staying in a large home into your mid 70s + once your kids are busy with lives of their own and it’s becoming harder to navigate stairs, home maintenance, etc.

I will be 57 when my youngest graduates college (mortgage will be paid off). Ideally the plan would be to stay until about age 65. At that point DH and I will both be retired, all our kids will be age 30+, and I think they will feel relieved to see us purging/downsizing so they don’t have to worry about clearing out their childhood home. This seems like a good sweet spot to transition our lives.[/quote]

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