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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who is right? I work fully remote and have permission to work from anywhere. So during the summer I am talking the teens to my hometown (amazing, cool city) for 2 months. Kids love it. DH put himself in a position where it’s a bit harder to join, due to a complicated per situation he caused himself. Also he just doesn’t want to do it. Now he’s angry. AITA?[/quote]

Yes, not only are YTA but your DH also has grounds for legal proceedings. You don’t get to unilaterally decide to relocate your kids for two months and deprive the other parent of access without his consent.[/quote]

This is hilarious.

DH is shorthand for husband. They are married and until they divorce they both have full custody of their children and there is no scenario where a summer trip would be a legal issue.

It sounds like the husband is jealous the mom and kids are going to have fun without him. [/quote]

I honestly don’t get how people are saying this is okay. So as a mom who has a non telework friendly job,  my teleworking DH can just inform me that he is taking the kids to spend the entire summer with his family in another state and I have no recourse to prevent him from doing so and effectively depriving me of seeing my children for 8-10 weeks?  Thankfully he isn’t an a**hole and would never dream of doing so but still that just doesn’t seem right.

What if rather than being teens the children were preschool aged or younger? Does that change your perspective? This isn’t a case of DH just being jealous of missing out on a fun experience but rather a significant chunk of time in his children’s life.[/quote]

So even if it were a great opportunity for your kids, you'd say no because it's not good for you?

That's a bummer.[/quote]

They’re going to spend a summer in a op’s (self-proclaimed)  “amazing cool” hometown”, not participating in some transformative irreplaceable opportunity.  Sure it will probably be fun for the kids but it doesn’t justify or necessitate shutting DH out and separating the family for an entire summer rather than just spending a couple weeks there.[/quote]

Are people who send their kids to camp for the shutting the parents out of the kids’ lives?  
You are being very dramatic here.  [/quote]

Do you truly not see a difference between two parents jointly deciding to send their kids to camp for 10 weeks versus one parent unilaterally deciding to travel for 10 weeks with their kids while excluding the other parent against their wishes?[/quote]

I think you intentionally misread - of course he was invited. He chose not to come due to pet reasons. He was the one who got those pets. [/quote]

I think by intentionally misread you mean failed to magically intuit a blatant typo, but yes that is a game changing piece of info![/quote]

I didn’t realize there was a typo. No need to get us upset about this. Anyway, this thread has taken a strange turn. Not interested in it anymore. Certainly don’t need Jeff to highlight it in his case summaries. So, please don’t.[/quote]

Just to summarize:

You posted a relatively provocative thread specifically asking for opinions on “who is right”, subsequently attacked those who didn’t support you, next  provided a host of previous unshared information to bolster your case and are now declaring yourself uninterested and criticizing others for engaging on the topic [/quote]

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