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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op - I guess my point is that I do wonder if we are slightly pathologizing 'normal' - or rather my point is more nuanced. I come from a different country and I've noticed that [b]Americans have super high expectations of behavior and self regulation from kids. Where I come from, at school, kids are way more 'rambunctious' when younger - playground scuffles, lots of crying from 5-8, lots of mean words, lots of staring out of the window when should be buckling down.  And teachers deal with it in different ways depending on the teacher and the school. [/b]But WAY fewer diagnoses. Now you could 100% argue that is a bad thing and I think largely that is correct. But I do think we are reaching a crunch point. Either we change our entire understanding of neurology to multiple different neurotypes instead of just 'normal' or 'autism' or 'adhd' (basically the only choices for kids) and start setting ALL humans up to understand their unique learning and communication style, OR we change the parameters for diagnoses and separate them from health insurance criteria (which is an insane yardstick to be using for a lifelong diagnosis). [/quote]

I agree with you that our modern parenting and school expectations are a huge problem.  It didn't used to be this way.  We/Americans used to know that children are children and not mini-adults but we seem to have forgotten.  Is it the increase in small families with 1 or 2 children or childless/child free adults and the disappearance of large families with lots of children? So there's a lack of knowledge and experience of children?[/quote]

I think a big piece of it is the rise of 'professionalism' which America and China are the leaders in. 'Professionalism' - aka absolute emotional regulation, efficiency of output and communication and conformity to strict behavioral standards are probably tacitly considered to be the 'benchmark' by which human success is measured and that translates into expectations of our children. There is no room for even a nt person to deviate substantially from this archetype and so we are holding our children to - essentially - junior corporate standards. That's one theory.[/quote]

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