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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Growing up my family always had the philosophy that if someone travels to visit us, we pay for them if we go places.  My parents explained it that we're the hosts and the visitors were our guests so we should pay. Also they had spent money on flying or driving to see us already so they didn't need to spend more on doing things.  Obviously if someone wanted to take us to dinner or something to say thank you for hosting, we were fine with that but on the whole our philosophy was "put your wallet away while you're here."  DH and I feel the same way and try to treat relatives when they come to visit.  His family definitely doesn't do the same though and when we visit them they never offer to pay even though they're both in high earning jobs.  I'm not ever going to make a big deal of it because it's not worth causing strife over a dinner bill, but I just wonder how common this is.  For example, last time we visited they took us somewhere where they have a membership.  We had to pay the full rate for our family to get in and they never offered to even chip in.  Even if we go get a coffee, they wouldn't offer to buy it, the expectation is we'd have two separate orders.  Is this common?  Notplanning to do anything with the info other than know - like I said, not worth rocking the boat over some meals and activities.  It just seems odd.  [/quote]

we only pay if it's a weekend trip to visit us. 
if they are staying longer, they pay - whether it's grandparents, parents, cousins, families, solos. we are not their cheap vacation. and if you want quality time with us, plan an actual vacation with us, don't live in our home while we go to work and school all day. [/quote]

So true.

We have some chronic houseguesters-only family members who never take a vacation unless someone else puts them up or pays their daily fun and eating.  And this sent of 70 yo parents has $10m in rental properties throwing off $200k of annual rent. 
Yet they won’t tip, don’t do real gifts or presents, hate eating out yet when you schedule their Mother’s Day or bday dinner will eat three courses plus a bottle of wine, and won’t fly Friday-Sunday ever. It’s a sport to them to be cheap, frugal and get their adult children’s family to pay for them.

Our brothers are friends since our wedding and when my younger brother invited them to his wedding, my FIL’s first question was: who will we stay with? 
As if the $130 block price was just too much. [/quote]

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