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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP if you are in Virginia and your mom just has social security, she may be eligible for an auxiliary grant which would allow for an assisted living placement. She would need to be both financially and medically eligible.

After a series of falls we were able to get my mother approved. She is in a beautiful assisted living and contributes her social security. The county also contributes and the assisted living agrees to take less. It is a lot of paperwork, but very much worth it if she is eligible. She would also be eligible for Medicaid which helps with prescriptions: https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/contact/Mobile/ProgramDetail.aspx?agId=100520[/quote]

My mom also qualified for this grant. She moved into a newly built independent living senior community down the road from me.

She is on Medicaid and receives SSI due to leukemia and the impact on her abilities. She also receives her SS. Together it’s only $900 a month. The grant covers the majority of her rent and her monthly payment is $120. Her building only has 8 units set aside for this program and she was the second to apply for this building.

She did not want to go to a nursing home and qualifies for in-home support including aides, nurses and therapists. But it’s not around the clock care, just a few hours a week which does help relieve the burden on me and my family.  She also receives food stamps and other nutrition support.

Medicare and Medicaid cover her cancer treatment in full at Inova Schar and her prescriptions are never more than $4.

Your county’s Department of Social Services will be your entry point in learning about and applying for support.

My mom doesn’t have resources - she was an immigrant working low wage jobs her whole life. She never had a retirement account, home or other assets but always paid taxes and never utilized welfare.

As the elder daughter, I feel an obligation to care for her and if she were healthy I’d have her live with me. But she needs a home that is safe for her (no stairs, accessible shower, grab bars in bathroom, etc), friends to keep her company, and activities to keep her busy.

My gift is the time and effort put into navigating the social services maze, taking her to treatment and out for lunch, buying groceries on her behalf and managing her meds. I visit almost every day and monitor her therapy and care sessions via a camera.

Please look into social services - you deserve to save for your retirement and for your daughter. Wishing you all the best. [/quote]

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