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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I hear you and some of these responses seem bitter. I’m 43 and and I’m starting to see a difference. It’s INCREDIBLY naive to think that OP must be boring or doing something wrong because she’s noticed a shift in the vibe she gets from men. That is the reality.

Maybe I have been lucky- I have worked hard for my professional success but I have absolutely benefited from “pretty privilege”. It is what it is. Being attractive is a draw for most people. Even those who aren’t trying to hook up; it’s subconscious, it’s just part of how human brains work.

I’ll admit it- I saw a change in the amount of notice I’ve gotten from men over the last few years and I understand and accept it’s part of aging. But OP- you can mitigate the change. I started on HRT and saw my skin improve, I lost the bit of weight I’d gained on my stomach, then lost another 15 lbs to get back to my happy size (4) where I know my body looks its best.  I stepped up my workouts (nothing crazy, just added more strength training), I spend more time on my hair and went a little lighter (and cover any grey). I also broke out of the Covid era habit I had developed of dressing super comfy with no makeup.

I don’t show lots of skin but I wear body flattering clothing and basic makeup most days.  The change in how people react has been noticeable.  I think you can both accept that you’re getting older and look polished and attractive.

A lot of women over 40ish around here just seem to not care about how they present to the world. Totally cool- but 100% it makes a difference. 
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Our responses seem bitter? Lots of people are giving OP advice on being more engaging in a *professional* atmosphere. By contrast, you’ve suggested losing weight and wearing tight clothes. [/quote]

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