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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I hear you and some of these responses seem bitter. I’m 43 and and I’m starting to see a difference. It’s INCREDIBLY naive to think that OP must be boring or doing something wrong because she’s noticed a shift in the vibe she gets from men. That is the reality.

Maybe I have been lucky- I have worked hard for my professional success but I have absolutely benefited from “pretty privilege”. It is what it is. Being attractive is a draw for most people. Even those who aren’t trying to hook up; it’s subconscious, it’s just part of how human brains work.

I’ll admit it- I saw a change in the amount of notice I’ve gotten from men over the last few years and I understand and accept it’s part of aging. But OP- you can mitigate the change. I started on HRT and saw my skin improve, I lost the bit of weight I’d gained on my stomach, then lost another 15 lbs to get back to my happy size (4) where I know my body looks its best.  I stepped up my workouts (nothing crazy, just added more strength training), I spend more time on my hair and went a little lighter (and cover any grey). I also broke out of the Covid era habit I had developed of dressing super comfy with no makeup.

I don’t show lots of skin but I wear body flattering clothing and basic makeup most days.  The change in how people react has been noticeable.  I think you can both accept that you’re getting older and look polished and attractive.

A lot of women over 40ish around here just seem to not care about how they present to the world. Totally cool- but 100% it makes a difference. 
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So…do everything you can to maintain your privilege as long as you can? I thought this was the liberating age of not caring what other people think?

Either be interesting enough that people want to talk to you regardless of how you look, or stop caring that people don’t want to talk to you.[/quote]

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