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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Thank you"

Then you realize that people are trying to be nice to you.  You clearly don't deserve it.  What a self-centered shrew![/quote]

I want to apologize.  Now that I have read the other comments, I fully agree that you must be having some sort of post-partum issues and you should probably seek help.  It is fully irrational to be offended by such a nice compliment.  You should view your reaction as a red flag.[/quote]

Perhaps you should view your knee jerk response to tell a post partum woman that she does not deserve kindness and is a "self-centered shrew" as a red flag and ALSO seek professional help.[/quote]

It is a good point.  I am just really upset about people who are so self-centered that they view common compliments as offensive.  It not only brings negativity to the world in general, but it chills people from being nice.  I hadn't considered that maybe the new mom was generally a wonderful person who appreciates people being nice to her but is currently suffering from mental illness.[/quote]
Canned generic superficial comments are not "nice". [/quote]

This. A lot of people who say this are just checking a box. It's like the postpartum version of "I'm sorry for your loss." You just had a baby? You look great! It doesn't mean anything.

OP is likely reacting negatively to it because of postpartum hormones (which is not a criticism of OP and actually the primary reason you should be thoughtful what you say to someone who just had a baby -- their hormones make them very sensitive), but the people defending this as some wonderful kindness people bestow on new moms? No. It's just something people say because they don't know what else to say. Most of the time people do NOT mean it.[/quote]

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