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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope he’s decent to your kids! [/quote]

OP here I hope so too. [b]I have no plans to ever meet him. [/b]Ex wife has the responsibility to ensure that he is good with the kids. I am not too worried about that because 99% of men honestly even if they don't like kids they will be sensitive to another man's children. 6 months anyways is really.....but what can I do nothing. [/quote]

I am not a therapist and I have never been in this situation, but I would gently suggest that you rethink this. The best thing you can do for your kids is make their lives happy, and that may involve you attending an event with your ex and her boyfriend at some point for your kids' sake. I wonder if there's a way you can reframe the way you see him from the guy who was your wife's AP to the guy who is now spending time with your kids. Like if you can see him for what he is now and therefore be able to treat him like someone who is hanging around your boys. Again, I'm not saying that's the right answer, but maybe it would help. I had to make a shift with a friend (which I know is completely not the same thing and I am not trying to minimize your situation at all), where I went from viewing her as someone I could trust and rely on to someone I could simply have small doses of fun with. I can't avoid being around her, although that would be my first choice, so I almost had to mentally kill the old friend and allow a new "friend" to be born, with whom I have a totally different relationship. Anyway, just a thought. I'm sorry about the situation you're in. [/quote]

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