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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not in contact and don't think about them almost ever.

I googled him maybe 4 or 5 years ago out of curiosity and his job sounds about right for where he was headed when we were together. But I remember also realizing I didn't care that much? Sometimes I'll fall down a rabbit hole looking up someone I used to know, an old colleague or friend. With him I was like, "okay, that's my past." I don't even know where he lives now or how many kids he has.

I just realized while writing this that friend breakups are so much worse than romantic breakups. I don't think about my exes because I wound up with the right person, I have a kid with him, I don't spend time thinking about those relationships. With friends it's different. I've had two serious friend breakups in the last 30 years and I still think of those women with regularity. I know where they live and about significant events in their lives. I don't obsess about them but I will look them up at least twice a year or so, when I think of it. Whereas I have exes I dated for a substantial period of time whose last names I struggle to recall.[/quote]

I got married young so maybe I don’t have significant exs but I agree. My heart hurts when I think about the person who was closer than family to me for years and I am no longer in touch with (despite reaching out multiple times). I have some idea about the event that precipitated her cutting me ( and others) out of her life but it’s a source of great sadness and I often wonder if I did something more wrong than I realize or if I’m a bad friend. I think about her/our friendship all the time.[/quote]

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