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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your sister doesn’t owe it to you to care for mom because it’s not convenient for you. She put in her time. It’s very easy to become burned out as a caregiver. Since I have been a SAHM for many years, everyone in the family assumes I am the person to depend on. I played along because I did want to help and recognized my siblings had full-time jobs. But after years and years, I literally lost myself. I remember when my mom was in hospice and I would ask a sibling to come and they were too busy quite often. When a close non-parent family member fell and ended up bouncing between hospitals and the nursing home for years, completely dependent, neither were willing to visit or help in any meaningful way. Nobody seemed to recognize the stress of having to handle tearful calls constantly, liaison with caregivers, take over finances, advocate for quality care and then make time to visit in person regularly. Now that my family member is somewhat stable, I’ve decided to go back to work. It’s time for me to focus on my own needs. I even found myself fantasizing about picking up and leaving the area for a time.

Just to be clear, I love all my family members and will do what I can to support them. But i will not support their careers at a cost to my own life and happiness. [/quote]
Wow, you sound like such an angel for your family. They may not appreciate what you're doing, but it's really amazing. From a random stranger, thank you for giving so much of yourself to those people <3 [/quote]

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