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[quote=Anonymous]What is amazing is that if OP's sister had NOT moved, the sister would be dealing with their elderly mom with Alzheimers and a broken hip on a daily basis and OP would not see anything wrong with that situation at all.

That's why she moved. Now you all have to figure it out together and you can't default to "well Sister 1 is closer."

Also, I assumed this was going to be a situation where your sister had depended on your mom for a long time and was now suddenly refusing to help with her elder care. I have that situation in my family and it's frustrating. My sister chose to live near my parents and used them for housing, free childcare, jobs for her and her husband, for decades. Basically from when my parents were early 50s until they were late 70s. Suddenly, as my parents health is failing, my sister is angry with them and not speaking to them. THAT is abdicating a role. My sister was very happy to be the "close daughter" when it benefited her, but now that my parents need help, she's decided their "enmeshed" and she needs to "set boundaries." How very convenient.[/quote]

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