Reply to Angry at sibling for abdicating her role

Forum Index » Eldercare

Reply to "Angry at sibling for abdicating her role"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]hmm, I can see why your sister did what she did.  We are doing the lion's share of the work with my aging MIL and while the sibling is helping, it's not to the same level at all.

I think you should give your sister some grace and it sounds like it's time for you two to step up.  [/quote]

I feel the same way -- I am the sister who is doing all the work and sometimes I am at the end of my rope and fantasize about just leaving and letting the other 2 deal with it.  Because its just so easy for them to not to anything right now.  I have literally told them I don't think I can do this anymore and they don't step up.  Your turn OP.[/quote]

I wish we could be friends IRL. same boat and I’ve said the same to my siblings w/ no stepping up from them. I also dream of running away like OPs sister and leaving my dead-beat siblings to manage.

OP- not only are YTA— frankly, you should be thanking your sibling for all they’ve done now that you have some slight idea how hard the past 5 yrs have been for them!   [/quote]

Me three, and I wanted to add—when you are the primary caregiver or even primary person responsible for care, you have zero time or bandwidth to sit down and think of ways your siblings can be helpful, approach that person, and wait for them to follow through.  The onus needs to be on the less involved siblings to discuss and offer concrete ways to help.  And then actually do it.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics