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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What people are missing is that OP is talking about a man who just wants to make enough money that his wife does not HAVE to work. She could work, but his plan is to make enough that they have the flexibility to set their life up in the way that works for them, whether that's dual income with nannies or her taking some extended maternity leaves or her become a SAHM for all or part of their kids lives. Options. Who does not want options?

Men do not get pregnant or give birth or breastfeed, they don't go through the massive hormonal changes having kids works on a woman. So to me, a man who says he wants to give his wife the option of not working IF SHE CHOOSES is sexy AF, because he's recognizing that if they have kids, she's going to do something he can't do, so he's looking for ways to make it easier. That's awesome. Many/most men don't think about their wife or family unit that way, as being something they can plan for and support. Many memories take it for granted that their wives will have kids and go right back to work like it was nothing. A lot of men come late to the realization that we ask a lot of women when it comes to building families, and basically their wives have to educate them on it on the fly, like her actually it's kind of a big deal to ask me to go back to working 40 hours weeks given what my body and brain and emotions just went through.

OP wants an unselfish man who wants kids and wants to give his family options. That sounds hot. She never said she wanted a man who wouldn't allow his wife to work, or even that her goal was to SAHM for the rest of her life. She just wants a man who wants to do asuch to provide for his family as his wife does in doing the work of having kids.[/quote]

Yes, this is what I'm reading, too. And my husband is like this -- he created a situation where I can work if I want to, take time off with the kids if I want, too, etc. it does feel like a form of love and support.

His mom is a super accomplished doctor and everyone in the larger family is feminist... But having the option to not work when the kids are young is a huge, huge gift. That's what OP is talking about.[/quote]

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