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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ummmm …if you are thinking about someone else, you are not happily married. Sorry to break it to you. [/quote]

This is such a sad and limited attitude. A successful marriage without divorce will last 50 years or more. You don't think you are allowed to *think* about another person in that time, even if you don't act on it? That's a crazy expectation that is more likely to create marital strife than solve it. Let people be human.[/quote]

NP, but I don’t think of it as limiting at all.

I don’t fantasize about cakes or alcohol or pasta either. I simply don’t eat them or think about them on a regular basis because they aren’t healthy and I choose not to live an unhealthy lifestyle.

I put fantasies about friends, acquaintances, and strangers in the same category. It’s an unhealthy practice so I choose to do healthier things with my mental energy.[/quote]

We're you a sex addict before marriage? Did you have sex with lots of people until it ruined your health, and then stop doing that so you were able to get married and have a healthy relationship? Because otherwise this analogy doesn't make sense.

It's more like someone who has been a healthy eater their entire life and never even dealt with cravings seeing something decadent and maybe delicious for the first time, knowing it's bad for them and resisting the urge to take a bite, but struggling with the temptation of it for the first time and asking for tips on how to manage that craving.[/quote]

Oh, and you are responding with "oh if you are even thinking about an unhealthy food, even if you don't plan to eat it and know it's unhealthy, you are basically already unhealthy." Which (1) does not make sense, and (2) is not how the human brain works.[/quote]

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