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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The elderly folks in my family and friends of the family who seemed to thrive were realistic. They didn't expect their children and grandchildren to cater to them. They moved to an appropriate setting kept old friends and made new friends. they joined in the activities. They stayed connected to family without trying to manipulate with guilt trips and victim mentality. They sought help if their mental health was declining.

We have both extremes in my family. It's horrible to watch someone rot on to sofa stuck in a victim mentality, refusing any help, refusing to stay on meds, refusing to move, firing any hired help. [/quote]

Does it come easy to you to view your elderly relatives through the lens you describe? Older people have declining cognitive ability. They suffer anxiety and depression like everyone else. They struggle with bodies that don't work as well. Some handle these things better than others, as you note.

And you view wanting social connections and help from family as "victims" who want to be catered to and are manipulative???? I'm not saying that those people don't exist -my father is the king of all of those things and more- but that's quite a sweeping observation on your part and is one that came quite easily.

Boy, this thread is SUPER enlightening as to how this country views the elderly.[/quote]

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