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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A parent generally cannot manufacture a spike. It is something innate with the student, a passion that they are obsessed about - debate, coding, football, whatever, something they truly excel at.

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Does playing fifa on the Xbox count?  My kid is very spiky at that.

OP -  I have a kid who gets great grades, will have a ton of APs, plays his sport at the travel and high school level but not going to be recruited, plays his instrument well but not at any type of competitive level and is generally a lovely kid.  He has no “passion” and we can’t fake one.  He also doesn’t have a ton of personal drive - that may develop as he is only a sophomore but probably not in time for the college application process.  So, he will apply to a wide variety of schools and see where he ends up.  I think he would be able to handle a T5 school (like his sibling) just fine. But probably can’t convince a T5 school that they should take him.  Which is their loss.  Let your kid be.  She will find her way.  I know mine will. [/quote]

Your kid is my kid's cosmic twin.  And your philosophy and mine have a LOT in common!  You can't manage a kid into having a different personality or a different set of interests.  You can demand the delivery of a certain quantity of time or work, or require membership in a certain set of activities, but to what end?  To produce a miserable postadolescent who doesn't feel that they know themselves or that who they are isn't good enough?  I've known college students who were only doing what their parents wanted.  They ranged from conflicted to miserable to resigned.  Not the kind of adult I want to raise no matter how much money they make.[/quote]

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