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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife and I no longer love each other.  We live together as roommates and that's it.  The only reason I have not divorced her is because of our kid.  But, once she is 12/13 I will file for divorce.  For the time being we're fine being "mature" around the house so it's best for our kid's well being.  But, I cannot wait for a couple years to pass.[/quote]
Here’s the thing, you will end up in this exact situation with whomever is your next partner. If you want companionship and stability in your later years, family holidays with your child and possible grandchildren, etc. you should figure this out. I am not throwing stones, I am in the same situation and I am trying to reconnect with my DH, but I had a few long term relationships before getting married and I know that it’s not the person, it’s you (me). You and your DW need to lean into your marriage and do some hard work. Just like I need to do. Because if I leave my emotionally abandoned marriage, I will certainly fall madly in love again, but in 10 or 15 years I will be in the exact same position but this time with way less money, way less time with my kids, a weakened relationship with my kids, and I will have very deep regrets. Fix it, OP. [/quote]

No here. In your case it's probably true that you are the problem. A few long-term relationships definitely points to that.

But it's not universally true that  it will be the same in his next relationship.

If you want to remain married because you essentially know no one else will remotely tolerate your BS great do that but you don't get to condescendingly decide that for someone else.[/quote]

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