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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 53 and this was definitely the model in my house.

My brother never did a thing his whole life until he joined the Navy and they taught him to make a bed etc.

I was making my bed with hospital corners since middle school, and I vacuumed and dusted for my mom and cleaned bathrooms too by the time I was in high school. I think my brother might have taken the garbage out now and again but typically in my family model men and boys sat on their rears watching sports while women and girls cleaned, shopped, cooked, etc.

I know plenty of marriages in my age group where women are doing 80-90% of the domestic labor. This is the primary cause of conflicts along with money and childrearing styles.

Whatever chores you might make your kids do in childhood, what will still with them most is the model they watch of how domestic labor is split in your marriage. [/quote]

I am in your age group. The women you know - like the poster whose mother finally died - choose to do what they do.

Choose differently. 
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Oh, I did choose differently. I've cohabitated with a few men in my life, but never longer than a year. I've been single by choice for the vast majority of my adult life. There is a time not long into a committed relationship where most men let the mask start slipping and you see what their expectations are for you - to be mommy, to be chief cook and bottle washer, to be life manager, to be willing to defer to his preferences for how to spend mutual time, to be ready at the drop of a hat to be porn star girlfriend/wife even in the face of dwindling emotional connection and/or consideration of your needs and desires.

I watched my mother be a domestic slave to a man who treated her like shite. There was no way I was going to live my own life like that. I might have overcorrected, but looking at the situations of most of my married friends and family same age group, I don't think so. I am grateful my revulsion for my mother's life drove me to eschew a lifetime of domestic servitude rewarded largely with ingratitude.[/quote]

That’s great. But this is about what parents are expecting their kids to do now. Not what your parents expected of you back when or what men expected from women then or expect now.

Parents, kids, chores.

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