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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to work on your marriage rather than going out with another man. You have to ask this question? You really don’t know the answer? Why did you get married in the first place? [/quote]

For some people, going out with someone else, or even just having a flirtation and remembering what it's like to feel desire (even if you do not act in it) can be part of working on your marriage.

I didn't date anyone but I did fall for/develop a flirtatious relationship with someone I have a professional relationship with, and it's probably the best thing to have happened to the sexual/romantic part of my marriage. We had a terrific partnership, great friendship, and were very good at co-parenting before that. But bedroom was dead and things were almost platonic. That flirtation just kind of woke me up and made me remember how much I like the physical part of a relationship. It helped me feel like I a woman and not just a mom and wife and employee. There was never any danger of it crossing a line because I'd never do that to my family, though I did fantasize about it and that was good too.

For a lot of people, telling yourself to not even think about other people or indulge flirtations/fantasies (in a way that dies not violate monogamy) results in just kind of shitting down that part of your psyche, which isn't good for a marriage either.

I'm not suggesting jumping on Tinder, but if OP is feeling this way, there ARE ways to feel those butterflies of attraction that won't cross a line but will get you something you need. You are human, this is a very human desire, it's okay to admit you need it.[/quote]

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