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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pretty inappropriate, TBH.

It also sounds like cheating to me if you are having butterflies and getting excited for your date.

I mean, you know this.[/quote]

[b]They can both have butterflies as long they know to then go home and have fun with their respective spouses. [/b]
That works for a LOT of couples. 
It's just that OP expressed it in a rather provoking way. [/quote]

Reads like an attempt to justify testing the waters for a potential affair, and a setup to fall into an emotional affair even if it never gets physical.
And yes, emotional affairs are a real thing. They aren't just a "frisson" of fun to spice up your marital bedroom back home. They can do actual damage. [/quote]

Yeah, well, I've been doing this for years and no harm done. Married 20 years, kids in high school and college. Circle of good friends.

Live a little, people! You only have one life.
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"Doing this for years"? You mean, flirting in the sense of stoking romantic/attraction feelings, with other men? I agree with the previous poster who pointed out that your "No harm done, married 20 years" does not insulate you from ending up with harm done. And why you think that having older kids and a "circle of good friends" magically makes it fine is...beyond me. Comes off as smug: "I get the romantic thrill and still have a great marriage and life!" This is the kind of shrugging arrogance that ends up hurting yourself or someone else. Either that, or your ability to pursue flirtation without any actual emotions ever happening might indicate you're pretty divorced from feelings.[/quote]

Ha ha ha ha! You hate that I'm happy and at ease with my values and lifestyle. Your reaction doesn't say anything about me so much as it says something about your own fears and insecurities. I've had lots of crushes in my life, and can control myself. Crushes are meant to be enjoyed, not feared. You flirt a little, and at the end of the day, you go home to your spouse. My husband is free to do the same. I want him to enjoy his life.

I've been on DCUM for more than 10 years, and I've noticed the relationship forum is populated by extremely socially conservative posters. You rival the Taliban in your views of who/when/where women can socialize with. Your entire value system is rooted in a woman's apparent lack of emotional control. The Fashion forum is also a favorite target: I'm sure it's the same posters who grouse about women dressing younger than their age, wearing bikinis or mini-skirts past their 20s, etc. I suspect these women are terrified their husbands are going to leave them for women who are confident and attractive and live their life how they want. The arrogance of these women! How dare they be happy and carefree!

In short, everything you write, PP and others, smacks terribly of insecurity and internalized misogyny. That's actually a huge problem, which sadly I'm sure you can't even perceive.

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DP and I think thou doth protest too much, yes?  I don’t care or judge you for playing with 🔥🔥🔥, go ahead but don’t be surprised when you get burnt.  Been there, done that, nothing to be proud of or write home about.

Being attractive isn’t a big accomplishment either, a lot of us are attractive and stylish and get a lot of male attention- it doesn’t make you a better or more vibrant human being just because men want to get in your pants.  You are just projecting like crazy.[/quote]

Well put, PP.

I'm one of the people to whom that projecting PP is responding. You nailed it. She's highly invested in a self-image where she's "happy and carefree!" and anyone who dares say she might be courting trouble "rivals the Taliban" and is rife with "fears and insecurities." Protesting too much indeed. [/quote]

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