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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has she blocked him?
Did she tell him she's no longer available?[/quote]

This. what has been her response to the ex?

I am one who feels she was dishonest, and I can totally understand why OP feels he was cheated on. His girlfriend made him believe she had cut off all contact with her ex only in reality she had been connecting with him on FB and sleeping with him during that time period.

Her response should guide OP in how to respond if she doesn't apologize for lying, if she tries to excuse her lie if she doesn't clearly let the ex know things are done.  OP should end it immediately. You should also end it immediately if you can't let it go, because it's not fair to her , you, or the relationship to be stewing over this for years, or if it will be something you throw in her face when you 're upset.

If she does these things, then you also need to have an explicit talk with each other about boundaries, and honesty in your relationship and what you both consider to be cheating. It's clear you aren't on the same page, and that's not uncommon. Just look at this forum there are people who think going on dates with others while married is okay and others who do not.    The standards need to be crystal clear here.

I also think you need to pause the proposal  for a little bit, and see how this plays out for a few more months..

And if youdo decided to get engaged,  premarital counseling is a must.
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