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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You asked for a break. What did you expect? I think you could have asked for him to come over without actually breaking up.

When Dh and I took a break, I saw another guy and slept with him. The guy happened to be Dh’s friend’s friend so Dh found out. I ended up getting back together with Dh and eventually got married. I am fairly certain Dh thinks of it as a betrayal even though we were on a break! We haven’t talked about it in decades but he always made me feel like I cheated on him and betrayed him because I should not have moved on so quickly.[/quote]

I agree with your husband. Unless you were broken up, it was a betrayal. Going without sex for a few days/weeks should not have been that big of a burden. If you felt that strongly about having sex, even with some random guy you saw, you should have at least respected your DH enough to breakup.

Instead you basically told your DH that if he wouldn’t give you sex, you’d get it from somewhere else - no feelings or commitment necessary.  You made it clear that it wasn’t him as a person that you valued, it was him as somebody you could sleep with that was interchangeable with anyone else willing to sleep with you. [/quote]

Ummm we broke up. We were in our twenties.

The guy I dated was funny and cute. Twenty years later, I still don’t think it was a betrayal and it absolutely was not cheating.

I won’t bring up the sore topic to Dh.[/quote]

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