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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why on earth was he not doing the medical appts if he only works PT? And you quit your job while he only had a PT job?

All of this is such a mess.

I probably wouldn't stay married to someone like this, but I know it's more difficult with Sn kids in the mix. [/quote]

op here. We tried having him handle the appointments. It was a disaster. Even with multiple reminders (verbally, text, and email from me and doc office), he would still be super late or not show up at all (or go to the wrong place). Then he’d go into the appointment and provide conflicting information and narratives that were inaccurate and inconsistent with each other. He’d forget or just somehow not convey the information that needed to be conveyed and then the whole appointment would be wasted. When I’d ask him afterwards what happened I couldn’t get the information I needed and DH would again say contradictory things that were inconsistent with each other. I tried doing things like FaceTiming into the appointments but that didn’t work well either.

Regardless, even if DH was more capable, there’s no scenario where I’m not going to be there for things like hospitalizations, treatments, surgery, etc. and there have been multiple things like that.
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Same thing here. Can’t trust or rely on my ASD “brilliant” spouse for anything basic even.

We live together by parallel lives. He only focuses on his work and movies. Says Hi to the kids when convenient but usually ignores us all or ramps up his conference travel then complains how he’s always tired and needs a nap. Yet he was always tired or napping before as well.

Just get the kids older and more independent for as long as possible.

Theses types are total loose cannons. 
May decide to divorce you since “he’s not happy or getting attention”. So be ready for anything.

Trapped and terrible way to live. Terrible for the kids too. One of mine has HFa ASD too so me and Nt kid get sandwiched in the twilight zone every so often. [/quote]

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