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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I feel like they're always jumping to conclusions or making assumptions based on that small snippet"

Your parents suck, and you continue to let them sh*t on your husband. What an awful spouse. [/quote]

OP here - lol thank you for the classic DCUM response of "you don't have any problems because you are the problem and also you suck". I'm glad you have an outlet to sh*t on strangers on the internet to make your sad life seem better. [/quote]
But it literally is? All you have to do is shut them down when they start droning on and on about how awful your husband is, and yet you dont? So they continue to do it and you continue to listen and make them think this sort of thing is ok? Do you have any loyalty to your DH? [/quote]

I am wondering if OP might be attention seeking - if perhaps OP did not get sufficient parenting and attention from her parents while growing up, but this is a way of trying to get that. Some families are truly messed up, in that manner, even as adult children.  Maybe it is time to admit you will never be good enough for them, whether you are the black sheep or the golden child, realize their judgments are completely off, and call your familial relationships dysfunctional, as they seem.  In some dysfunctional families, there are those who can do no wrong, and those who can do no right, no matter how backward.   [/quote]
Yes, she likes being put on the pedestal and feeling special. [/quote]

PP here.  I am not mentioning OP's attention-seeking behavior to be mean or counterproductive.  I am saying that OP might have been neglected by her parents, on some (regular) level, and this is OP's way of getting her parents to interact with her.  Some parents, no matter how many kids they have (one or ten), might be checked out and not engaging parents, or just not very good at parenting, to a degree. I have seen my DH do it with our kids, and he subconsciously learned the checked out behavior from his parents - DH thought it was normal, until our kids pointed out the behavior to DH.  No kid, no matter the age, wants to feel ignored by their parent.  [This is especially true if there is parental favoritism and over involvement and enmeshment/codependency with another sibling.]   [/quote]

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