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[quote=Anonymous][quote] The T1D is under control. Unfortunately, the FAA requires tons of documentation and exams, and those are the hurdles that are just hard to clear with all the other things we have going on now. It sounds like you get that part.

The risk as a mom - yes. I've tried to explain this to him, and he just says it's anxiety. But you're right, it's biology. Flying light aircraft is not without risk, and my kids need me. My body realizes this, even if I can try to tell myself the opposite.[/quote]

PP from above. OP your assessment of your situation is solid. I say this as an adventurous mom who loved being involved in outdoor sports before DD came along. As an example, I used to bike commute from my condo to the hospital where I worked. It was about 14 miles one way with lots of hills. I loved it. Many times I’d finish at the hospital between one and three in the morning. I would bike home in the dark and loved that feeling of freedom. I tried it a few times after DD came along, and it just wasn’t the same. There was no part of me that could justify getting taken down at three in the morning on my road bike because I insisted on maintaining a vestige of my old life. And that doesn’t mean I stopped riding. it just means I drive to work now and that’s what works for us.

I know I often feel lonely and misunderstood when people look at me sideways because I don’t “step up“ like I used to. It doesn’t feel good that they don’t grant me the grace that I need to do the single most important job that I have, which is being DD‘s mom. But, motherhood can sometimes be a lonely pursuit, albeit one that in my opinion, brings the most joy. You sound like a really interesting person. You do you. Anyone with your interests will find something equally interesting, that also works for her life. :)[/quote]

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