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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I mean this nicely, do you struggle setting boundaries? Your husband is pressuring you to resume flying (in midlife with 2 kids and what you describe is not super well controlled DM), and your flight instructor was "pushing" you to get your DM1 under control? Your choices and bodily autonomy are yours. I know men think they can (and they often do) freely comment on women's bodies and choices, but dang girl. You gotta push back. If I felt this pushed around I'd be depressed too.

This is going to sound like a tangent, but: I'm a single working mom in a high-stress job. My life is generally on point because that's what's required to make it all work. Perhaps because I project an image of being put together, I get straight-up *weird* requests. Can I house an unrelated friend in my home for 6 months for free? Can a family with two WAH parents borrow my nanny? Can I spearhead an effort to oust a teacher from our kids' private that the other moms don't like? No. The answer to all these is no. It's isolating, because when people ask these things, it's a reminder that there is no thought as to whether or not that would work for me, it's just an easy ask because they think I can do it. And I could. But that's not what's best for me as a parent.

It sounds like you loved flying, and that's super cool. But I could not imagine taking on that risk as a mom at this point. That's your biology talking and it's not wrong. Now getting your A1C under 5? There's a goal! (you probably already have an insulin pump but if not, get one). That's the goal your husband should support. That's what will help you live the longest and be a happy, healthy person, mother and wife. [/quote]

The T1D is under control. Unfortunately, the FAA requires tons of documentation and exams, and those are the hurdles that are just [b]hard [/b]to clear with all the other things we have going on now. It sounds like you get that part.  :lol:

The risk as a mom - yes. I've tried to explain this to him, and he just says it's anxiety. But you're right, it's biology. Flying light aircraft is not without risk, and my kids need me. My body realizes this, even if I can try to tell myself the opposite.[/quote]

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