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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I will be in the minority here but I feel as badly for him as I do for you. I think you both need a lot of individual therapy and a lot of time. Only after that will you be able to trust your gut and make a good decision. He may be addicted to sex and running toward these hookups as an escape. It doesn’t excuse it, but it could be a poor coping mechanism as opposed to a narcissistic jerk living it up behind your back. The fact you said he couldn’t go through with hiring a sex worker makes me think he has struggled deeply with his own sexuality, psychology, and morality.

Sending you giant creepy internet hugs.[/quote]

The man needs more sex and validation. This may or may not have anything to do with OP. [/quote]

The DH's issues have nothing to do with OP.  The DH is ADDICTED. That is the problem. Why isn't he getting professional help (and I don't mean sex workers), OP?  Does he really have you convinced that his addiction is "normal" and "not a problem".  You seem to be dismissing your DH's actions and thoughts by saying terms such as "healthy sexual appetite", etc.

You can make excuses, or you can make changes.  You have to want a better life, you have to want to not be depressed.  Can't you see how your inaction is adversely affecting your entire family?  How is burying your head in the sand working for you? You have to take some responsibility for your family unraveling.  This isn't the 1940's - your can't just justify your DH's mistreatment of you by shrugging your shoulders and saying "this is what men do!" with an over sedated or under sedated smile.  Because it is not what healthy, normal men do at all - your DH's behavior is not normal, and it affects all of you - not just you, and not just him.  Kids are not stupid, they know what goes on in the house, they take in everything. Don't do that to them. [/quote]

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