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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here.  There are many many threads here about similar situations.  Objectively, what your husband did was wrong — and he should be ashamed of his actions.  If you want to blame and divorce, then go ahead.  However, as other threads have shown — if he has a need and expectation for regular sex with his wife — “to have and to hold” per the old school vows — then were his needs reasonable and were you able to meet them?  Probably not for many reasons.  And, I am not sure he was able to meet your needs for love, affection, conversation, etc?  But most men cheat for a reason — and they are condemned for it — and you get to choose how to proceed — knowing that both women and men will understand whatever choice you make.[/quote]

OP here - this is fair. He has a very healthy sexual appetite, and after learning of the initial cheating over 5 years ago, I've never felt the same toward him and have not been able to have sex multiple times a week (more like 1-2 times/week).

I also think he's frequently looking at porn throughout the day and we both work from home. This grosses me out. So it's very hard to force myself to have sex multiple times/week with him. [/quote]

I’m sorry but you have to try. The man needs more sex and it has been five years. You can’t punish him forever. I know you don’t want to hear this but he called a sex worker bc they were a professional and discreet way of meeting his needs without cheating on you emotionally. [/quote]

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